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the time travel meme

1. Depending on your age, go back 10, 15, 20, or even more years.
2. Tell us how many years back you have traveled and why.
3. Pretend you have met yourself during that era, and tell us where you are.
4. You only have one “date” with this former self.
5. Answer these questions.

Okay, as we start, what year is it and how old are you?

1990 aged 20, 20 years ago, because, well, it’s all so beautifully symmetrical, innit? I’d have either been in Kwazulu Natal, about to leave South Africa, or in London.

1. Would your younger self (YYS, from here) recognize you when you first meet?


2. Would YYS be surprised to discover what you are doing job wise?

Considering that in 1990 I looked after parrots and then worked in a Tunisian bakery, I guess I’d be surprised to hear that I’m an editor now, but maybe not altogether – words have always been my oxygen.

3. What piece of fashion advice would you give YYS?

Lose the hippy crap – go skater.

4. What do you think YYS is most going to want to know?

If she made it.

5. How would you answer YYS’s question?

You made it! You got past 30 after all kiddo.

6. What would probably be the best thing to tell YYS?

Get some basic routines going and stop living in the now quite so much.

7. What is something that you probably wouldn’t tell YYS?

Your heart’s going to be doomed for almost the next two decades.

8. What do you think will most surprise YYS about you?

That I get to sleep more than 4 hours a night.

9. What do you think will least surprise YYS?

I’m a grumpy sod.

10. At this point in your life, would YYS like to run into “you” from the future?

Yes, very much. I was desperate for a queer mentor.

random music shuffle meme


1. Put Your iTunes, Windows Media Player, etc on Shuffle.

2. For each question, press the next button to get your answer.


4. Put any comments in brackets after the song name.

5. Put this on your blog.

1. If someone says, “Is this okay?” You say? everybody hurts [rem]

2. How would you describe yourself? muhammad my friend [tori amos]

3. What do you like in a woman? catching a butterfly [the verve]

4. How do you feel today? uncle june and aunt kiyoti [kristin hersh]

5.What is your life’s purpose? man on the moon [nick cave]

6. What is your motto?  paint the moon [the czars]

7. What do your friends think of you? struck by the sound (audio bullys)

8. What do you think of your parents? driver 8 [rem]

9. What do you think about very often? heresy [nine inch nails]

10. What is 2 + 2? lady [regina spektor]

11. What do you think of your best friend? africa rising [johnny clegg]

12. What do you think of the person you like? precious declaration [collective soul]

13. What is your life story? i am mine [pearl jam]

14. What do you want to be when you grow up? bank robber man [lenny kravitz]

15. What do you think of when you see the person you like? wait for the sun [the doors]

16. What will you dance to at your wedding? how does a duck know [crash test dummies]

17. What will they play at your funeral? no brakes [the bravery]

18. What is your hobby/interest? offend in every way [the white stripes]

19. What is your biggest fear? osama bin laden [rikku latti]

20. What is your biggest secret? interzone [joy division]

21. What do you think of your friends? so real [jeff buckley]

41 trivial questions meme thingy


sheep, post retief road

1. What is the closest item near you that is blue? my eyes <_<

2. What is your favorite color? #666699

3. When is your birthday? next year ;p

4. When did you last go to the mall? monday. we have two [count ’em] malls in the nearest city – my gf calls them mauls. they aren’t very exciting, but like most of their breed, they have too much fake light and too many people and a general air of need and greed and … i don’t like them.

5. When was the last time you bought a pair of pants? could this be the single most boring question ever asked by a meme?

6. What do you want for your birthday? some pants.

7. Who will be your next kiss? the cherrybomber

8. What was the last candy you ate? sally williams macadamia nougat

9. Are you wearing socks right now? ok this makes the pants question seem quite interesting. i’m not wearing socks, i’m barefoot. enthralling!

10. When was the last time you went out of the state? we call them “provinces” in south africa + the one i live in is called the eastern cape. it’s one of 9. and i haven’t been out of it for what feels like ages. last time would have been to cape town i think? eek. don’t know.

11. Have you been to the movies in the last 5 days? nope – far longer than that, in fact. east london is rather way off “the circuit” and seems to suffer rom-coms etc most of the time.

12. What was the last thing you had to drink? green tea

13. What are you wearing right now? a slightly peevish expression

14. What was your last purchase? a t-shirt for a friend’s birthday

15. Who was the last person you talked to on the phone? my gf

16. Have you bought any clothing items in the last week? see above

17. Do you have a pet? phrodeaux the 15 yr old very spoiled and loved jack russell terrier

18. What’s the last sporting event you watched? surfing

19. What’s the most played song on your iTunes? right now, full steam ahead by david grey and annie lennox, i seem to have some sort of addiction to it :/

20. If you could be anywhere right now, where would you be? with her.

21. What is the last thing you purchased online? bought a month’s mmorpg sub for a dutch kid

22. One thing you hate about yourself? one?! i have self-loathing down to a fine art. seriously though? my panic attacks.

23. What’s your favorite soup? tomato. out of a can.

24. Do you miss anyone? my gf.

25. Last play you saw? man to man at the grahamstown festival – one woman play starring antoinette kellerman + the best play i have ever seen anywhere.

26. What are your plans for the day? walk dogs on beach, work, fetch neighbour’s daughter from airport.

27. Last person you messaged? gf.

28. What do you know about the future? nothing..nobody does, it’s all just “educated” guesses

29. Are you wearing any perfume or cologne? not right now, i only add it for going out.

30. Where are your best friends located? she’s at work in the city right now.

31. How old do you want to be when you have kids? i’m 40 and don’t have any.

32. Who was the last person who made you cry? me?

33. Do you have any tattoos or piercings? pierced ears, nose, brow – none worn for many years now. tats: gecko on right shoulder, eland at base of spine, moon left forearm and star on right calf.

34. How do you like your soda? not hooked on it – coke or fanta on a v hot day.

35. Do you like hot sauce? yes.

36. Next time you’ll take a shower? saturday morning. i usually bath ;p

37. What was the last movie you watched at home? national treasure

38. What is your mood? low-grade anxiety, nothing major.

39. What kind of car do you drive? anything anyone lets me – i don’t own a car.

40. Have you ever been to Virginia? no, i’ve met her though.

41. What are you doing right now? finishing this meme

Day 21 – Political LGBT issue that is closest to you or affects you most 

General intolerance..made concrete by bits of legislation – like no marriage, or quasi marriage/civil union. Like Uganda wanting to pass laws to behead queers. Like all of the non-recognition of partnerships that has caused people to lose their homes. Like countries with supposed democracies exercising extreme prejudice towards queers. Like a system that allows murderers in gay hate crimes to go free. Everything is political and it is all close, to all of us. And by us, I mean people. Not just queers.

Day 20 – Maureen or Joanne? (Or your favorite LGBTQ show or queer-positive show)

Well lemme see, what’s on satellite tv in south africa…will + grace, glee, ellen.

I like w+g a lot, mostly for karen though. And although I love ellen, I rarely watch it.

I have a dvd of a series called exes and ohs, which is lovely + far more lesbo than the l word could ever dream of being.

Probably the best bit of queer positive tv though, lasted maybe a couple of seconds. It was just ellen resting her hand briefly on the small of portia’s back.

Day 19 – Butch or Femme?

Butch. As. Fuck.

And because the term is open to interpretation, I shall bore you with an explanation.

I was born with a vagina and still have it and am very fond of it. That’s not a dig at trans people. We live in a foolish society with rigid rules and so I could be medically diagnosed (!) as gender non-conforming and politically as a transgressor … and it’s all rubbish really and simply shouldn’t matter one bit. But we (we humans) are by and large, slaves to things like media and religion and others’ opinions. Tsk.

So here we have this rather lovely old term, “butch,” which people tend to apply to masculine looking women, especially if they’re lesbians – and I am both of those things. As I have said ad nauseam, I only adopted the term myself in my thirties, because of all those negative connotations – butch dykes tend to be seen as portly and badly dressed (and I am neither). I was described as androgynous and then later, soft butch. Over the years I had a think about the portly, badly dressed, mannish dykes who are out there, spearheading visibility, but getting reviled by their own community. It’s bullshit, isn’t it? I started to identify very publicly as butch. I will admit to being far more solid around the middle than I was in my younger days, but I’m still not badly dressed.

I’m instantly read as a dyke, sometimes read as male and I honestly don’t give much of a shit about how people see me – although I am certainly vain enough to enjoy the fact that anybody bothered to look. I get comments sometimes – sometimes they’re directly abusive and sometimes merely fuckwitted.

“So you’re the man in the relationship.”

No. I’m the woman wearing men’s clothing, mostly. My voice happens to be deep, I loathe make-up and can rarely be arsed shaving my legs. My sex is female and has no bearing on my choice of clothes etc. My gender can be a simple or complex as you care to make it. Butch, as they say (them with the beeeg words) is my gender performance. A few minor adjustments to society, however, and I and everyone else would give even less of a shit.

FFS … if butch equalled male and femme equalled female, I guess most of my body parts would be femme and constantly starting uprisings about the way the rest of me is. So ja, I’m butch – by appearance and stubborn politics.

“You dress that way because you want to be a man.”

No. You wouldn’t believe the fun I have as a woman … the orgasms, the orgasms!

“Why can’t you be more feminine?”

Because I don’t wanna.

*no femmes were harmed in the making of this blog post.

Day 18 – Something about the LGBTQ community you don’t understand or have a question about


I have many questions about why society at large and specifically its het population do not tolerate us, but the queer community? What’s not to understand?

We’re people, not freaks.

I hear questions like, why must there be dyke drama – and it’s such a simple thing. There isn’t such a specific thing at all, it’s merely part of being human and being a small community.

Anyone need anything else demystified?