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it’s war – pick a side (people are dying here)

All it takes for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing. (Edmund Burke)

One thing I get very worked up about, to the point of a fairly insane attack of irritation, is fence-sitters. It’s unjust of me – the world needs people who can see both sides of the proverbial fence after all (but I hope the barbed wire scars their asses). Ahem. If you haven’t realised it by now, let me state openly that I am, in fact, not a very pleasant person.

OK so …

Queers and freaks who want to be accepted by the rest of society … hello, I’m talking to you. I agree that society should be kinder and more tolerant – but it isn’t and it keeps bullying, raping, beating and killing us. If you think hate crimes aren’t happening – get to googling. And I’m saying hate crimes and grouping homophobia with religious and racial intolerance and and and … all of the ways society has chosen to make its opinion known.

If you’re a fan of democracy and society is saying that queers should not exist, then surely society is right?

So we – we the outcasts and our allies – work and revolt in order to change minds and laws and save lives. because it ain’t about getting equal tax breaks for fuck’s sakes, people die!

A gay teenager was decapitated, dismembered, and burned to death in Puerto Rico. The police investigating his murder said he deserved it because of his ‘lifestyle.’ (via Calpernia)

How many stories like that do you need to read to be convinced? The answer is – one’s too many – but oh people, there are so many more. And imagine how many more that we never even hear about.

Homophobia equals apartheid. (Desmond Tutu)

Obviously my gaydar radar is attuned to news of my own community, but let’s get broad again. Intolerance of anyone for any reason is actually bullshit. And if you, as a queer, are not willing to identify with the rest of us queers out here in the firing line – fine. Enjoy your closet. Enjoy the herd and the blood on your hands (yes I know I’ve said that in 3 posts running now). Society won’t change unless you change it. Voices won’t be heard unless they’re strong and part of a united force. Perhaps you’re sitting there thinking things have improved? We live in a world where genocide is constant in the so called 3rd world and where even in the first, teenagers are killing themselves and Jews still aren’t safe. People assume that Muslims are terrorists. And. So. It. Goes. On. Ad nauseam, ad infinitum.

“If you’re not part of the solution you’re part of the problem.”

On a good and positive note – my favourite aunt, Kate Bornstein says it gets better.

twittering @ kate bornstein

OK.  Kate Bornstein.  First time I ever stumbled upon her name was when I bought a copy of Nearly Roadkill in Exclusive Books, Somerset West Mall, Western Cape, South Africa in – oh fucknose, 199_? I read the novel till it was tattered, forced friends to read it and was generally word-and-thunderstruck by it.  When I met another fan of the book, I knew I’d met a fellow amazing human being.  That kind of stuff.  Maybe I should explain that that sort of literature isn’t “big” in this country even now and it certainly wasn’t back then.  It was fantastic to read (in those crackheaded and bartending days) about the fluidity of gender, the fluidity of identity, gender-neutral pronouns and, (plucked from the staid shelves) WOMEN HAVING KINKY CYBERSEX!  I had a brief and fangurlish email exchange with her at some stage during the late 90’s and she’s still sweet about talking to fans.  I commented on her blog, she replied on twitter.  Check it out:

katebornstein @hypertopia8 What’s the state of the queer/lgbt scene in your part of South Africa?

hypertopia8@katebornstein eastern cape: underfunded, underdeveloped, undereducated but still plenty of good people. tiny scene.

katebornstein@hypertopia8 I can only imagine. Yay you for your pioneer work, Ulla. Please let me know if I can help/support in any way. xoxo K

hypertopia8@katebornstein are you in touch with these guys http://genderdynamix.org/ – they do amazing work here

katebornsteinTks and tip o’ the hat to @hypertopia8 for pointing me towards South African trans support & research group: http://genderdynamix.org/

hypertopia8@katebornstein liesl theron, robert hamblin, charl marais would be the people to talk to there. they’re in their recent book too.

I really hope she does talk to genderdynamix, they’re an amazing organization.  Oh yeah, it’s a transgender org, KB is a transwoman.