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sir dyke, i presume?

Another weekend over, another Monday looming and here goes another waffling blog entry.

So, I have been reading lots of blogs about gender identity lately.  Perhaps I should just say identity, without tagging it with gender too.  It gets so very confusing.  I’m going to reiterate my own views here, simply for the sake of hearing my own voice (in typeface, at least), which is – I’d prefer a gender continuum to the gender binary.  I don’t give a shit whether you call me sir, ma’am, or, as I’ve frequently encountered, “Are you a man or a woman??” – I just wish people would lose a few preconceptions and that whole rigid binary thing.

Haven’t people noticed that the world is an evolving and surprising sort of a place?  Haven’t Thai ladyboys taught people not to make assumptions about genitals?  Have the black power movement and feminism not taught us to be a bit more tolerant?


I’ve read stuff by butch lesbians who identify as masculine, some who identify and transgender (but not trans man) – basically I have read a whole bunch of stuff by cis women claiming to be just about every gender you could imagine and a good few you’ve never heard of.  I like it.  I like it a lot.  Whatever challenges the mainstream and general perception is alright by me.  Whatever label anyone wants to apply to themselves is worthy of my respect.

I don’t think we need to abolish the binary, just accept that it really isn’t all that there is.  I have also been reading a lot of transgender stuff and finding it fascinating too.  Some people take the “fuck your gender binary” approach and some seem to be journeying very purposefully towards one end of it or the other.

It all gives the academics a lot to talk about anyway.

a short thought about gender

i’ve said it a gazillion times before – i’m a dyke who gets called “sir” a lot.  mostly, i think that’s fun.  i’m very attached to my vagina, but not to most binary gender definitions.  although i am content with my own physical shape, being taken for the “opposite” gender to what my body’s categorised as, keeps me thinking. i imagine the two binaries, not on a line, but on a circle – because circles can spin – and that if you put male and female at equidistant points, there’d still be a lot of interesting space on the circle to fill with all kinds of people. maybe the whole space is “intersex” but then there’d be so many degrees of that too.  i guess it’d work better on a mobius.  (too lazy to go get an umlaut there, sorry)

i’m also busy trying to find out who uses gender-neutral pronouns – i fear their fate might be pretty similar to esperanto’s …

[new thingy up at idyke today too]